Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Girls Need Less Power?
Feminizing Women's Sports Teams
Monday, December 28, 2009
Penny Red: Carnival of Feminists, 23/12/09: Tidings of Comfort and Joy
I started hearing the phrase "man up" about a year ago, I guess. What the hell? I hate it. Like "having balls," "manning up" has no female equivalent. Of course, no one congratulates a woman on showing some real ovaries (well, actually, I have been known to do so from time to time) and no one tells a woman to "woman up."
Monday, December 21, 2009
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Saturday, December 19, 2009
Friday, December 18, 2009
Thursday, December 17, 2009
I made a terrible mistake. It was a lapse in moral judgment.
You're too controlling / sickly / busy.
Everyone knows I love my wife, who is beautiful / smart / the best.
It was so flattering. I couldn't help it.
I guess I wasn't sure I wanted to be married anymore.
I fucked her, but I didn't love her.
|I thought I loved her, but I didn't fuck her.|
You know you're the only one for me, baby.
I guess I thought I just didn't deserve you.
Well, she wanted it. I kind of felt sorry for her.
I guess I was jealous that you were becoming so successful.
Really, my family means everything to me.
“I don't know …”
It only happened once.
I don't know why it happened. I only know it won't happen again.
It isn't you baby, it's me.
This is the first time it's ever happened.
I was drunk / stoned / sad / lonely / depressed.
I didn't feel close to you since the baby came / your mother died / you started school.
It has nothing to do with our life together.
I guess I was starting to feel old. It was flattering.
I tried breaking it off, but she kept calling me, like "Fatal Attraction."
I had her hang out with us so she could see how happily married I am.
You KNEW our marriage was unhappy at the time. What did you expect?
Hey, wait, it's sexist for you to point out that all the men you know have done it!
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Saturday, December 12, 2009
from Sociological Images.
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Friend --more here
The extremists who control the Republican Party have engaged in one of the most implausible masquerades in history by trying to identify themselves with the American Colonials who revolted against British rule.
In fact, as I prepare to go to the floor of the House this week to defend a package of tough financial reforms and consumer and investor protections, I confront a hostile, virtually unanimous Republican Party, which has a major characteristic in common with a different set of eighteenth century figures - the kings of France. When the French monarchy was restored to power in the 19th century, it was said that "The Bourbons have forgotten nothing because they learned nothing."
Vice President Biden Dispels Myths Around Medicare and Health Reform
Is it sensible to think that the heirs of those who created Medicare would destroy it? The Vice President thinks not and restates that health insurance reform will protect Medicare, not hurt it.
From USA Today:
Biden: Whom Do You Trust on Health Care?
Well, I like this quote from the USA Today article!
As of late October the White House still had the upper hand in the health care debate. A Gallup Poll showed Americans trusting President Obama more than both Democrats and Republicans in Congress. According to the poll, “Fewer than 4 in 10 political independents have much faith in either political party in Congress on health care reform; however, the majority of independents do trust Obama.”(link to the Gallop Poll is provided at the USA Today article)
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Biden on 2010: If GOP Succeeds, It's The End of the Road for What Barack and I Are Trying to Do - Political Punch
Biden said Republicans are pinning their political strategy on flipping these seats.I know he's quirky, but I still love Joe.
“If they take them back, this the end of the road for what Barack and I are trying to do,” the vice president said at a fundraiser for Rep. Gabrielle Giffords (D-AZ) today in Greenville, Delaware.
Republicans need to pick up 40 seats next November to take back control of the House.
There are 49 seats currently held by Democrats in districts that Sen. John McCain (R-Ariz) won in last year’s presidential election.
Biden said these House seats are Republicans' “one shot” at breaking the Obama administration’s agenda. But if Democrats can hold on to those seats, “the dam is going to break,” he said, and a new era of bipartisanship will begin.
“All the hidden Republicans that don’t have the courage to vote the way they want to vote because of pressure from the party … it will break the dam and you will see bipartisanship,” Biden said.
In this post, Marcella writes about the sickening shortcomings of established procedures for reporting on-campus rapes.
When I was at Gonzaga, we had several rapes happen in the dorms during the first month of school. One male student accused of rape was an eduation major who was nearly finished with his program. The rape charge would leave him unemployable as a teacher in the future, as Gonzaga was going to be required, if the rape was established as fact, to report to the Washington State education authorities; the student would then not be eligible for teacher certification.
So, the stakes were high.
The female student accusing him of rape was discouraged from contacting police. Campus policy was to do something along the lines of an arbitration. Hmm - in how many other types of crimes is the victim required to sit in a meeting room, without armed police presence, to try to "work things out" with her attacker? This approach still assumes that there was some "misunderstanding" that can possibly be sorted out - some sort of "he said, she said" that a wise third party might be able to resolve.
So, she showed up for the meeting. She did not have legal representation, as she had been told by campus authorities not to bring anyone. The young man, however, had two attorneys with him, and no one made them leave.
Not long after that, we in the Women's Studies club sponsored a "Take Back the Night" rally which included a speak-out on rape. Some of us noticed someone filming the entire speak-out, and at first everyone thought SOMEONE ELSE in our group had authorized it. Over the coming days, however, we learned that school officials had, without permission, set up a video camera to film these women speaking out about their rapes. The video then went to Robert Spitzer, priest and president of the university, who watched it, he said, to be sure the school was legally protected over anything any of the women claiming to have been raped on campus might say. The idea of this priest sitting alone in his office watching that tape wants me feel like vomiting even as I write this, several years later.
The Women's Studies department did succeed in getting shool policy for rape accusations changed after that. We also started doing things to protect women on campus, such as offering escorts for walks home across campus after dark and having many escorts available following school dances and any other organized events.
Part of the problem with reporting rape is that universities are required by the feds to maintain statistics about on-campus crime, and that information must be made available to parents of potential enrollees. Schools, of course, seek to minimize their crime stats, thus they have a strong incentive to keep rape charges quiet, away from the police, in "arbitration," etc. I don't know what the answer is to that one, I really don't.
(I just went to add tags to this post and realized I have NEVER before used "rape" as a tag in one of my posts. WHAT THE HELL?)
Monday, December 7, 2009
"Twenty years ago today, a savage misogynist threw himself into L'école polytechnique de Montréal with a rifle, chose out the women among classes of engineering students, and shot fourteen of them to death. He also wounded fourteen others, ten women and four men, before killing himself. Twelve of the dead were engineering students, one a nursing student, the other an administrator.
While he was doing this, he shouted about how he was fighting back against feminism, saving society, and getting revenge for how women had mistreated him.
The long-range effects were also grim: several of the survivors have since taken their own lives, unable to cope with the events of the day, according to notes."
Does this seem problematic to anyone but me? They are getting paid by us. Why are they watching football? Ordinary workers don't get to watch football at work - except, of course, for football players!
A friend of mine from high school is part of a team that has developed a Twitter feed called "AP Fake Stylebook." My friend is brilliant and witty; the "AP Fake Stylebook" is great fun. One need not be a member of Twitter to view the page and enjoy the wordplay.
Here is my friend's story as he tells it:
Always Remember to Close All Parentheses. We’re Not Paying to Air Condition the Entire Paragraph.I hope you will go visit!
Wednesday, November 4, 2009 at 8:15pm
At last my secret can be told!
A couple weeks ago my pals Ken and Mark decided to start a Twitter feed called "Fake AP Stylebook". In it, they’d make fun of the Associated Press Stylebook, a guide to grammar, punctuation, and usage that journalists and other professional writers rely on. They invited me and a bunch of other people to join in. We had some laughs, posted some stuff, and successfully entertained ourselves. Here are some of the things we posted:Some of mine were:
Robots should only be referred to by gender-neutral pronouns, no matter how sexy they may be.
The correct spelling is ‘Mr. T.’ People who type out ‘Mister’ are fools to be pitied.
The noun “Wang Chung” should be capitalized, but not the verb.
If you’re short on space, “fake” may be used in place of “psychic” or “homeopathic.”Two days later, we were successfully entertaining 20,000 other people. Somehow this thing just took off like a shot, and we were getting follows and retweets like crazy. And if that weren’t enough, that’s about when the first publishing agent contacted us. The short version is: we are working with an agent and putting together a sample chapter for a proposed book that a number of publishers are interested in.
The interrotilde is used to denote an ‘n’ that is pronounced as “WHUUUUUU?”
The plural of ‘dracula’ is ‘CHRIST GET OUT OF THERE!’
Avoid using the letter G as it is unlucky.
That, my friends, is crazy stupid.
We were semi-anonymous, in that the Fake AP was itself, and we were focusing on it, keeping it separate from our other stuff. Ken and Mark would happily tell people who asked whatever they wanted to know. A would-be “investigative reporter” “unmasked” us over at Wired’s website, and at that point we went ahead and admitted who we were. (Considering that we’re all a bunch of nobodies, it’s hard to say that there’s any difference between us being anonymous and us being outed.) The full list of contributors is here.
I’ll keep you posted with new developments. In the meantime, here are a couple of articles about the whole shebang:
Should "anal retentive" be hyphenated?
New York Magazine: the Approval Matrix (we're both "brilliant" and "lowbrow.)
and, once more, the actual Twitter feed.
I sent a youtube copy of "Miss Cellie's Blues" to all my women friends on facebook, telling them "I think you're something special, sista, I hope you think that you're something too."
A friend replied that the same message was for me too, which really touched me, especially as it came at a moment when I really needed it.
So, here is my response to her about the movie "The Color Purple:"
Well, thanks - I just so happened to really need that right when I read it! My mother always says there are no coincidences! When I was younger, I thought it was just some silly thing she said, since I didn't have that much faith that things were happening for a reason but rather felt like I was getting tossed around in some storm of universal chaos, you know, but in recent years I am learning she is onto something...I needed your message RIGHT when I read it - THANKS!
Several woman to whom I sent this said this movie had meant a lot to them, that they have always loved it. This movie really speaks to so many of us, I think, because it is, in its quiet way, about a woman's heart (Cellie, Shug, Sophia, and Squeak) - women's exploitation, our being silenced in a man's world, our inner longings for love and respect and equality - our basic desire to just fucking SING, even if we are off-key, to start to be SEEN - our real selves - even if we feel ugly, in a world that, in many ways, still conspires to silence and hide our kind. You know, it's like Maya Angelou named her autobiography, which detailed her years of silence following her childhood rape, "I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings." At its core, Cellie's story is about the caged bird who finally flies away and sings. Some of us, perhaps even most of us sistas, are living as Miss Cellie, but secretly longing to be Shug - to sing, to travel, to feel guiltlessly, even indulgently sensual and comfortable in our own skins, maybe to stick with a man as long as he pleases or amuses, but then move on when we are ready...I think that's where I am. I'm forty one and one day soon (well, actually, in the next two or three years, as I still have a teenager at home), I hope, I am going to move out and go "sing" (my own metaphorical version of singing, whatever that ends up being), go travel with my own inner Shug. I AM going to tell Mister that until he does right by me, everything he touches gonna turn to dust. And it is going to happen too; I feel it in my bones.
Thanks. I really did need your message right when it came. It was a rough evening. Mom is right (she's always right!). There are no coincidences.
This is no place for a woman's heart.
"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song."
--- Maya Angelou
Saturday, December 5, 2009
I imagine he doesn't know that women who end up working as prostitutes were usually molested as children, often through incest. I guess he doesn't know how often battering is done by the charming Richard Gere-esque johns (sarcasm). I guess he doesn't know about the damage done to a woman's body, not to mention her spirit and her heart.
The young man included prostitution on his list of "victimless crimes." Well, I think it's time to give R. Mott her say; I don't think her stuff can really be linked to too often - do you?
from the blog of R. Mott
and from me to R., because she came into the world already complete and beautiful (which is what a rose traditionally symbolizes):
Friday, December 4, 2009
Gibbs takes a swipe at the GOP - The Hill's Blog Briefing Room
great Saints shirt here
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Monday, November 30, 2009
I have also discovered Facebook and am in contact with about five of my best friends from high school. We have all sorts of reunions planned. I just have to work out some possible physical limitations on travel, but I think I will manage. It is all so good for my spirit.
I am the most relaxed I have been in a long time right now, more relaxed than the anti-anxiety and pain meds ever made me. Ah, what a wonderful deeepppp breath!
Be well. Bright blessings. And thank you again.